Obedience is connected with a here and now promise. Children, like adults are sinful and prone to sin. Obedience is connected with the life God has called us to live. Obedience is significant because it points at something more significant: honor. Parents have a responsibility to make sure their children obey. There must be consequences. Make obedience simple, expectations clear, and provide children with sufficient oversight and creative outlets. We obey because Christ obeyed and honored his Father.
Our children must be valued and respected. They should be participating in church and learning. They not only can accept Jesus, but can and should participate in the life of the Christian community.