If I am really going to become more like Christ, it means that we would change the way we do marriage and become less self-oriented and more other-focused. It means we become more sacrificial, more missional, more willing to give our comfort, time, and possessions away for others. Jesus is asking. How about you? What is it you want? If we truly have aspirations to follow him fully, to become the people we were created to be, to be much more like Jesus and a lot less like us, to be people of character and impact, it does mean change.