Why Men Sleep During a Sermon: How to Keep Them Awake!
Most pastors see themselves as preachers first. They naturally want to maximize their pulpit time. Indeed, sermon length is increasing worldwide. However, I want to identify compelling reasons to keep a man’s rapt attention.
There’s very little evidence to suggest that longer sermons produce more mature Christians. And long, rambling sermons are one of the main reasons men say they don’t like to go to church.
Of all the advice I dispense to ministers and teachers, none is more controversial than this: preach shorter sermons. Even a mediocre preacher can be good if he shortens and focuses his message. (This is only one man’s opinion…)
I define the ideal sermon for men as: 1) approximately ten to fifteen minutes in length, 2) built around an object lesson, and 3) concluding with a clear call to action.
Needless to say, this position has not endeared me to a lot of pastors.
I recently started a discussion around this issue on Facebook. My readers mostly disagreed with the idea of shorter sermons. Among their comments:
- Maybe the men are just not saved. If you don’t love the Word, you probably are not born of the Word.
- I think most men could sit and listen attentively for hours when the message resonates
- Weren’t the Lincoln/Douglas debates like 6 hours long? And that was before women could vote, so the audience was men. If a pastor treats his congregations, and I think especially men, like idiots that’s the quickest way to lose them.
- As David Platt would say, 15-minute sermons yield 15-minute Christians.
- Likely a heart problem for men who don’t love the Word
- I have been with guys that can be involved for hours on sports, hunting, etc…without breaking focus. When we treat men like children and cater to shorter times with them, we, regrettably condition them to expect that is all there is.
Of all the arguments supporting long sermons, this is the one I hear the most:
- Men can sit through a 3-hour football game or a 3-hour epic movie without being bored – so why can’t they sit through a 3-hour sermon? Or a 1-hour sermon? Or even a 30-minute sermon?
Are men just lazy when it comes to God? Or is there something different about sport and film that allows them to focus intently for a longer period of time?
I think it’s the latter. Here are four reasons it’s easier for men to focus on a lengthy game or a film than a lengthy sermon.
If you’re a pastor who wants to lengthen his sermons, consider these touch points of male engagement:
1. Sports and movies are built upon surprises.
We go to a movie hoping to be surprised. We don’t want to know the ending. Uncertainty produces the thrill.
This is why, when we talk about a movie we’ve seen, we say, “Spoiler alert!” We don’t want to ruin the fun for our friends. Once they know how a movie is going to turn out, the less likely they are to enjoy it.
Same with sports. The best games are those that could go either way. But the stinker games are the blowouts – when a superior team manhandles a weaker team.
Case in point: when the undefeated Denver Broncos played the winless Jacksonville Jaguars in October, the game barely attracted notice. But when the 8-1 Broncos faced the 9-0 Kansas City Chiefs November 17, the game was moved into prime time on Sunday Night’s national broadcast.
My point? The Jags game was ignored because everyone knew who would win. But the Chiefs game drew huge ratings because the outcome was uncertain.
Men love to be surprised.
2. Sports and movies are built around conflict.
Think of your favorite movie. I guarantee it’s built around a conflict. There’s an injustice being done. A bad guy wreaking havoc on society. Just when everything seems bleak, a hero (or heroes) step forward to set things right. Even comedies with thin plots are built around conflict.
Same with sports. All modern sports are built around defense of a goal area (the end zone, the net, home plate, etc.) Each team is trying to conquer the other team’s goal, while defending its own goal. The only major professional sport that doesn’t follow this model is golf, a gentleman’s game that appeals more to older men.
Men love conflict.
3. Sports and movies are visually stimulating.
In the case of both sports and film, there’s a lot to see. Sports features balls and bodies flying through the air. There are uniforms, cheerleaders and crazily-dressed fans. Video screens feature instant replay and entertaining video clips.
In the case of film there are lots of objects moving through space, explosions, and attractive actors doing heroic things. The special effects revolution has only increased the visual impact of films.
Men love visual stimulation.
4. Sports and movies create audience buy-in.
My wife and I saw the space survival movie Gravity last weekend. It’s a very good movie because it draws you into the narrative and forces you to encounter the big questions men grapple with: What would I do if I were marooned in space? Would I be able to survive? Could I pilot an unfamiliar space craft and land safely on Earth?
Men care most deeply about football games when one of “their teams” is playing. For example, my 10-1 Baylor Bears are taking on the University of Texas Longhorns this Saturday. I’m taking 4 hours out of my weekend to watch that game. Why? Because I graduated from Baylor. I would not invest 4 hours of my life to watch UCF vs. SMU or even Auburn vs. Missouri. Why? Because I’m not bought into those teams. I have no connection to them so their game does not interest me.
Men love buy-in.
In my next blog post I’ll take these four principles and show you how you can use them in church to engage men in your sermons. You might even be able to preach for three hours